A New Habit

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This summer, Mark and I had a few days away together at a yoga farm where we had a chance to slow down, connect with the earth, and take a look at what we want more (and less) of in our lives.

Mark has known for years that his lower back pain was most likely due to stress, but also due to his lack of flexibility and need for a strong core. Stretching was something he knew he should do, but didn’t often make time for.

So each morning while we were away, we took advantage of the gorgeous yoga studio on this property to do our own yoga practice. After the second morning of doing yoga, we realized how much it was helping his body, how good it felt to both of us to start the day off connecting with our bodies and breath, and how we wanted more of that in our lives.

The pragmatic part of us knew that it is a lot easier to make big plans while relaxing on vacation than it is to implement them once you return to real life. And we had the added challenge that “real life” was about to get way different. If we couldn’t start and keep a yoga practice under normal circumstances, there was no way we’d be able to do it when  factored in the complexities of nomadic life.

We returned home committed to try to keep up a daily yoga practice. And we just passed the milestone of 45 consecutive days!

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Doing yoga together has had fabulous consequences… those we hoped for, and several that have surprised us. Our hope that stretching and strengthening would help Mark’s back pain has come true. He is reporting no pain during the day, and much less tightness after his soccer games.

We have been surprised at how much we enjoy the challenge of figuring out when and where to do yoga everyday. This goal has led to sessions with amazing views, with having to move furniture to make enough room, and to purchasing “travel” yoga mats that fold up into our luggage so we can take it with us on the road. Most days we practice for 30 minutes or so. Some days, we have to squeeze in a quick 10 minutes. Other days, we go for an hour with a 10 minute shavasana (or shavasa-nap as one kid calls it).

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Another surprise is how much others have wanted to join us. Most notably, the kids. We offered, and they initially declined to join. But after watching for a few days, they starting asking to join us. Now, we have to check with them each morning before starting, and they get upset if we forget to ask first. We’ve also been joined by Mark’s Uncle and his girlfriend when we were visiting with them. The six of us, on his deck, overlooking the water, all in warrior pose is a sight I can only imagine (and so WISH I could have captured on camera)… it was one of my favorite yoga sessions to date.

The kids joined us today for our first “official” yoga class in a studio with a real teacher. I enjoyed being able to focus solely on myself and my own breath, rather than counting or thinking up what comes next to lead everyone. But mostly, I enjoyed doing something I love, that feels so good to my body, that is benefiting the body of the one I love, and helping my children learn and grow in their own bodies… and getting to do it with my family.

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Meditation is creeping in to our practice. I’m hoping intention and more of the spiritual practice of yoga will show up in our practice over time as well. But for now, I’m feeling so grateful that morning yoga is now a habit, and confident that we’ll be able to overcome the nomadic challenges that our practice will face.

Travel Tip & A Day in Northern WA

Travel Tip! Here’s a helpful hint if you haven’t yet gotten one or more passes that professes to speed up your time going through security and border crossings:  you only need one pass — the Nexus pass. It’s $50 per person, and kids under 18 are free. If you get Nexus, it also includes TSA pre-check AND Global Entry. This was never explicitly stated anywhere we could find online, but we got this notice from the helpful Border Agents when we spent a few hours in Blaine, WA getting our Nexus cards today. If you want help getting through security and customs faster, only get the Nexus card and spare yourself the time and money of going through the other two. You’re welcome.

[That said, to get our Nexus card required making an appointment 4 months in advance and driving to the Canadian border to do the paperwork and have our retinas scanned. Even so, I wish we’d done it first, years ago, and saved the hassle of doing the paperwork (and paying the fees) for all three systems.]

So this most recent adventure was primarily to make the 3 hour trip to Blaine from Bainbridge, but we made the most of the trek and added in some fun stops.

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[Playing around while we wait for the ferry in Kingston]

On the way up, we made plans to see a former work colleague of mine. Years ago, when we were sitting next to each other at a lunch table in some window-less ballroom at a conference, she happened to mention that she was writing a kids/family book about the world needing a new Santa Claus, and how Santa holds a contest and selects a young girl to be the new “South Pole Santa.”

I immediately downloaded the book and read it to the girls. A few years passed and Christmas time came around, and I remembered how much we’d enjoyed “The Search for South Pole Santa” and decided to re-read it to them (along with the subsequent 4 sequels) now that they were a bit older. The second read-through of the book was an ever bigger hit with both of them. They loved the imaginative characters, the drama, the excitement, the heroine so full of kindness and love, the romance and the mysteries.

When we planned this trip up to Blaine, WA to get our Nexus cards, I realized that we’d be driving through Everett which is where this colleague lives and works. I reached out to her and invited her to have lunch with us, so the girls could meet the author of these much loved books. She gladly accepted! We spent some time before this trip going back over the books and writing down questions the girls had about her writing process, her characters, and her future plans for the story.

 

[Their handwritten questions (using the Apple Pencil) in Christmas colors!]

We met at a delightful restaurant in an old bank building to have lunch together. Sitting in the light of a bay window, the girls peppered her with their prepared questions. She was so forthcoming on her thoughts and process, really engaged the girls, asked them questions, and sincerely encouraged them write their own books some day soon. She even brought sweet gift bags with gifts, including t-shirts that say “Be Kind,” for the girls. Our time with her was a huge highlight for us all.

 

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[With our author friend, “JingleBelle Jackson”]

After lunch, we drove up to Blaine, and went through the slow, strange process of getting our Nexus cards. Everyone was kind and helpful, but the government bureaucracy is just bizarre.

We left Blaine as quickly as we could and returned south to Bellingham for dinner. I’ve been hearing lots of rumblings about Bellingham being the next Portland, so we wanted to check it out for ourselves. We stopped in a sweet comic shop in town, and the girls found some new-to-them books that we browsed (and put on hold at the library!).

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We found a highly rated, local/seasonal restaurant, called Brandywine, where we had a delicious meal. We still hadn’t selected a place to stay for the night, and weren’t finding anything inspiring anywhere near Bellingham.I wasn’t keen on doing any more driving, but Mark found a good deal on a hotel about an hour south in Mukileto, WA that was right on the water. Rather than driving the hour in the morning, we decided to do it after dinner. We left Bellingham, stopping to drive through the cute town of Fairhaven just to the south. Bellingham was cute, but I much preferred Fairhaven.

We pulled into our hotel in Mukileto with enough time to get our room, drop our bags, and walk back out to the waterfront to watch the sunset over Whidbey Island with the historic lighthouse at our backs, beach bonfire parties off to the side, fish jumping from the sea, and herons flying low over the water.

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It was a full day. The girls were tired. We were tired. But we’re filled with so much gratitude:  for having interesting friends who are willing to share their story, for not being rushed, for the ability to be flexible and unplanned, for getting to see new areas, for having bureaucracy go harmoniously, and for getting time together as a family.

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Wine Country

For the past four years, Mark has hosted a Willamette Valley wine experience for small groups of family offices from around the country. These events have proven to be unique gatherings of amazing people who come together to learn, share, go deep, build new friendships, and support each other, all while tasting great wine and eating delicious food. This year’s event was no exception.

Last year was the first year we brought the girls along with us to the event. They were joined by two other sisters from Georgia, each a year older than ours. The four of them got along famously, and spent the limited amount of free time we had planned, between tours and horseback riding, making their own movie.

This year, the two sisters joined us again (along with their new baby brother and their mom). We also welcomed another set of siblings, a 9 year old boy and a 12 year old girl from Texas. The six of them got along famously.

The night before the event formally started, we gathered a few of the attendees along with other Portland families to enjoy an epic dinner at a pop-up restaurant that was paired with unique beer from a Danish brewer. Each item in the five course meal was outstanding, and there was so much food prepared, that by the end of the meal we were eating because it was so tasty despite having no additional room to put the food in our bellies. But as any kid will tell you, there is always a separate stomach for desserts! Despite being full, we all found room to sample the incredible ice cream sandwiches made locally while hearing the story of how the owner created and is growing her business.

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This dinner was the first meeting for our girls and the siblings from Texas, and they jumped right into a quick friendship. They played cards at the table and took advantage of the giant Jenga and other games outside between courses. In between dinner and dessert, we also had a surprise singing performance by a college-aged woman studying musical theater in NYC, who was attending with her father. She sang “She Used to Be Mine” from the play The Waitress.

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The next morning, the kids and adults started on a tour of a local company, run by two women who are creating a line of characters to help teach emotional intelligence to children. It was so gratifying to bring the kids along to hear the story of how these women started this business from scratch, including hand sewing the stuffed animals in the early years, and  how big and impactful the vision they’re holding for their business being in the future.

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Once the conversation turned from the story and vision, to detailed business questions, the kids got bored and so we escaped to the Oregon Zoo for a few hours. We covered a lot of ground, saw most of the animals, and stopped to cool down with ice cream and a ride on the merry-go-round.

We met back up with the adults after they finished the first tour and a subsequent tour of a biomedical company at a hotel in downtown Portland.

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A large shuttle bus (followed later by me driving a 15 passenger van), took everyone down to Dundee, Oregon, where we’d all be staying for the next few days.

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I got the kids settled into the house and they promptly launched into making a new movie. Using iMovie and other special effects apps, along with a bag of Halloween costumes we brought, they started developing characters, storylines, and went right into filming. I made a quick dinner, welcomed the babysitter, and joined the rest of the adults for an amazing four course meal and wine pairings.

The opening dinner is always one of my favorite parts of the trip, as Mark does an incredible job of encouraging people to get vulnerable, transparent, and curious right from the start. The question he posed, after everyone introduced themselves, was about a hypothetical scenario about a book about families and family wealth:  what chapter would they want to write, and what chapter would they want to read? Everyone’s answers generated helpful questions, openings for future conversations, and illuminated connection points that the participants leveraged throughout the gathering.

After dinner, the group all gathered around the firepit, on a perfect summer evening, under a sky full of stars with a warm glow at their feet, to continue their dinner conversations. The kids slept in the house, while the adults talked the night away just outside.

In the morning, the adults had a full day of opportunities to connect. Breakfast conversations started deep and spilled into the morning when there was unstructured time to allow the dialogue to continue. Lunch was onsite as well, and the group spent the afternoon walking to three different wineries. We worried the hot weather would make the walks unpleasant or even impossible, but everyone enjoyed the exercise and the type of conversations that can occur when moving at the speed of walking.

While the adults talked, walked, and tasted, the kids were in active movie making mode. Stopping only to eat (which happened quite often), and a quick water gun battle in the heat of the afternoon, they remained focused on filming and editing their movie. Everyone had a role. Everyone contributed to the storyline. Everyone loved it. My job was to keep the food coming, to clean up the dishes, and to make sure that no sibling conflicts got out of hand. I was lucky the new mama and babe were around as it made the hang out time so much more enjoyable for me. I loved the good conversations with mama and delicious baby cuddles.

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The babysitter returned for the second night, and I had to beg the kids to stop filming so they could eat their dinner while it was still warm. I left the kids and joined the rest of the adults at a gorgeous winery, with a beautiful view, and super seasonal and local menu prepared for the dinner. The evening was perfect for sitting outside, and early enough in the season that we weren’t pestered by too many wasps.

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Everyone returned to the fire again after dinner. The constant electricity of conversation between new friends paused only briefly, when we were again graced with three songs from the musical theater student. As the perfect summer night approached midnight, people walked back to the rooms under the blanket of stars.

The last morning, the kids rushed to finish filming the last few scenes of their movie. The adults breakfasted and slowly got everyone packed up and on the shuttle bus as their work lives seeped slowly back in. We all stopped for lunch at a stunning winery that had a tire swing for the kids, and lots of lawn games. While eating and tasting their wine, we also got to learn about the growth in their business (including canned wines!) and the family behind the winery.

I left early to take our things home, and brought mama and baby with me, so the little one could nap peacefully in the car. Everyone else enjoyed the winery, and got private showings of the finished movie on the shuttle bus ride back to the city. The movie was 13 minutes long, included special events throughout, and even featured credits.

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Upon returning to the city, most had to leave for the airport or to drive home. A few adults squeezed in one more tour with Mark of a cannabis beverage company after getting back to the city. The girls and I said goodbye to all the friends, and headed for home.

We’re still recovering from the late nights, intensity of planning and holding the experience for so many people, and the big energy of new ideas and exciting plans for the future. But we’re grateful we get to host this event. Grateful for the people we get to meet and know well. Grateful that our kids get exposed to inspiring companies, and new friends. Grateful that we can facilitate deep connection and friendships between people. Grateful for all we get to learn and experience.

We have big dreams on how to keep doing events like this as we travel around the US and the world. And we’re excited to have so many people who want to join us, support us, and who are encouraging us to make it happen. Stay tuned!

News & How to Find Us

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We’re excited to share the news that we are making some major life changes soon.

Our long-time dream of traveling and world-schooling the kids is finally coming true. After sending our holiday cards this past winter, we realized how many friends we have across the country that we have not seen in far too long! We decided to start out by seeing our own beautiful country, the many parks and beaches it contains, and most importantly, so many of our friends that live here. Our time traversing across the US will be punctuated by international trips to meet up with friends and new business contacts.

Starting this fall, we are downsizing our life to fit into a 25 foot long Leisure Travel Van RV, and will be traveling around the country and Canada. We haven’t planned our route yet, so we’d love to hear from you if you’d like a visit from us, or if you’d like to meet up with us somewhere.

We hope to keep up this nomadic lifestyle at least through the girls’ middle school years (2019-2022), mixing domestic and international trips, as well as living abroad for extended periods of time. If you know people we should visit or places we should see, please send along those recommendations as well!

We’ve had many people ask about ways they can follow along on our adventures. So, we have two options:

Our family blog: https://schoolforyoungblood.wordpress.com/
Our instagram page: @schoolforyoungblood

A good place to start is the blog post about what we’re doing, why we decided to do it, and what kind of rig we bought.

We’re moving all of our mail over to a mail forwarding service. If you’re sending us paper mail (we do love holiday cards!!) please use this address:

1037 NE 65th St. #81429

Seattle, WA 98115

If you want to send packages, please contact us first, so we can let you know where we’ll be.

Our existing phone and email contact info remains the same. If you need a reminder of those, let us know.

We hope to see many of you this coming year and hope your life is full of pleasure and play!

 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” 

– Mary Oliver

Graduates

Every year, the teachers write amazing tributes to each graduate. T’s tribute was no exception. Her teacher, Chris Varley was kind enough to share what he wrote, and I’d like to memorialize it here.

One of the hard parts of pulling P out of school early, was knowing that she would not get to go through this rite of passage as well.

Here is his essay interspersed with photos from the girls at school over the years.

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Our storyteller, our mathematician, our poet, songwriter, counselor, our friend. 

You bring so many gifts to this community. The one that stands out to me the most this year – is your passion. 

Whether you are bubbling over with ideas to improve our recycling and composting programs or arguing for a decision on our Oregon Trail Adventure, you care deeply about the world around you and the ideas that can make it a better place. 

It seems to me that you have already figured out something really important: it’s not just ideas that make the world a better place, it’s the passion and focus that bring those ideas into existence. 


We’ve watched you combine your passion and focus again and again in Willow this year to help us read more deeply, think more deeply, and understand more deeply. 


My hope for you is that you continue to find ways to combine your passion and focus to take on bigger and bigger challenges because that is what growing up is all about. 


Everyone grows older, but not everyone grows up. As a big sister, you are accustomed to leading the way. It’s a role that suits you. 

And any community would be lucky to have you play it.

The Sisters:

(The first day of school, 2013)

Graduation day, 2018

Graduation day 2019

Boat Life – Week 2

The start of our second week on the boat kicked off with Father’s Day. We all had breakfast together before Mark took advantage of his gift of a massage, and Charlie and Mary Kay went for a long walk. We all had lunch together and the girls gave Mark and Charlie their father’s day cards.


We did some final prep on the boat and made the short trip back to Henry Island. After all the partying the nights before, we kept the energy low. We did a few loads of laundry and Mark and I took a hike while the girls played games, drew pictures, worked on a new story, and ultimately ended up on the playground. We made dinner and put the kids to bed early.

Monday morning, we continued the mellow vibe with breakfast together. Mark, Mary Kay and I played several games of pickle ball, while the girls watched amidst their drawing efforts. After making lunch and tying down the paddle boards and kayaks, we got underway for Pender Island, and Poet’s Cove Marina where we’d go through customs.

On the way there, we spotted several whale boats clustering around a peninsula. As we got closer we could see some were whale watching vessels and soon enough we saw the large, curved backs of humpback whales coupled with several misty blows several times as we cruised by. While it pained us not to linger, we had to see the Canadian Customs office just around the corner on Pender.

We had to wait on the boat while Charlie went into the customs office to check us in. We worked hard to eat up all the fresh fruit and vegetables we’d brought onboard over the past several days, as Canada is very particular about what you can bring into their country. We also worried about the amount of wine we had remaining. You could bring in 2 bottles per person into the country duty free, and we had 25 bottles left! After declaring the wine and leftover veggies to the local officers and someone on the phone in Ottawa, Charlie got us through customs (without a strip search!) and we got to keep the wine.

Relived and excited to be in Canada, we pressed on to Montague Harbor off Galiano Island. The sheltered cove made a perfect place to anchor. The darling restaurant on the deck, wasn’t open for dinner, so we picked up a few supplies in the small general store, and cobbled together a simple but delicious dinner — turkey sandwiches for the girls, and shrimp scampi for the rest of us. We fed the kids and put them to bed early, as they were still catching up from the late nights. We enjoyed a later dinner, watching the sun set from the flybridge. After dinner, Mark and I took a sunset paddle to watch the sun slip below the tree line, and were graced by the presence of a curious seal. We returned to discover the amazing dessert surprise our “Iron Chef” Charlie made from the half frozen banana and other the random pantry ingredients.

Mark and I decided to stay up and watch the full moon rise (projected to be 10:15pm, after the 9:15 sunset). But due to the hills surrounding the bay, we didn’t see the moon in its full glory until well after 11 PM, but it was worth the wait.

After sleeping in, making pancakes for breakfast, and helping the girls with their postcards to friends back home, we all piled in the dingy for a quick trip the general store (to mail said postcards). We then took off to a nearby provincial park and campground to hike and explore. We took a lovely walk through the woods, along an isthmus, across a 5,000 year old midden (where native peoples piled used shells, and is now a shell beach), through huge Madrone trees, crossing paths with a small snake, and stopping to look in tidal areas teeming with crabs, oysters, and tiny fish.

The little restaurant, Crane & Robbin, on the dock was open for lunch, so we stopped in and had an amazingly delicious meal — cod tacos, the best chowder I’ve ever tried, and a pulled pork sandwich for the girls. The girls enjoyed an ice cream cone from the general store after lunch, and returned to the dock to play with Archer, the pine cone catching dog, whenever they could.


Mark and I took the girls for a paddle around the harbor after lunch. They paddled longer than they had before, but still not long enough for our taste. We dropped them back at the boat and kept paddling. We spotted a raccoon on shore digging for goodies to eat along the shore line. As we stopped to watch him for a while, a bald eagle flew overhead and landed in a nearby tree.



Back at the boat, we took quick showers and got ready for the next grand adventure. A short dingy ride back to the harbor, where we walked up the road to wait for the “Pub Bus” to take us to Hummingbird Pub at the top of the island. The retired school bus pulled up, with musical instruments assigned as we boarded (tambourines, shakers, etc.). The driver stopped to share points of interest and island history – when he wasn’t blasting music and drumming along. There were cymbals, cowbells, drums, and other instruments set up so he could play as he drove. We signed our hearts out to “Yellow Submarine” and “Octopuses Garden” on the way there. When asked what they thought of the ride there, the girls responded with… “It was loud.”

We sat outside at the Pub and invited a local man to join us who had been introduced on the bus as the owner of the house next door to the marina who hand carves gnomes into wood, bone, and ivory. We also learned that David was witness to the excavation of the terra cotta soldiers in China, he made his money on real estate in Vancouver, and that his family lost their land and farms during the repatriation that took place under communist rule in Chile. The girls were taken with his stories, and he was certainly a character.

Unfortunately, the restaurant’s food and service didn’t live up to the entertaining standards of the bus ride there. The food was late, the order was wrong, and the quality was mediocre. But we enjoyed ourselves and the beautiful evening, as well as the crazy ride back down the hill.

After getting the kids to bed at a reasonable hour, we retired to the flybridge to watch the sun set again in this magical harbor and to work and read (albeit without any internet access).

Unfortunately, we didn’t sleep well. During the night the wind picked up and waves slapped the sides of the boat, bounced the dingy into the hull, and squeaked the ropes holding the anchor. We are were up for hours and Charlie made multiple checks to make sure our anchor didn’t drag and we didn’t end our trip in catastrophe. By morning we were all a little tired.

Mark rallied and made pancakes for us again. After a slow morning, we took the tender back to shore to visit David, the guy we met on the pub bus the night before. He gave us a tour of his artist studio and his collection of hand-carved gnome creations. My favorite was this piece of Walrus tusk carved with kelp, a school of fish, and a crab up on top.

We returned to the boat and got it ready to move. We pulled up the anchor and the tender and set out for the short trip to Salt Spring Island. The trip was easy and smooth, although it started to rain, rather heavily, just as we pulled into the dock at Ganges Harbor. The rain lasted for as long as it took us to tie up the boat, and stopped in time for us to walk into town for lunch.

Charlie suggested this darling place called Treehouse Cafe that had excellent food. The girls enjoyed the freedom and walked around the small town looking in nearby shops while we waited for lunch to arrive. After our delicious meal, we explored the downtown together, had gelato, visited the library, and went to the grocery store to restock supplies. By the time we finished, it started raining again and we enjoyed a wet walk back to the boat.

We didn’t feel like going back out into the rain so we made a delicious Thai-themed dinner and sat up on the flybridge listening to the rain on the roof. After getting the kids to bed, we sat in the cozy salon looking at maps, discussing plans for the next day, and sharing pictures with each other.


The following day, we kept things pretty mellow. We wandered around town some more, poked in art galleries, played at the park, and picked up some supplies. We sampled the delicious food in town. Breakfasted at Treehouse Cafe. The girls tried poutine for the first time – at a food cart – and T was in heaven. We retired to the boat to spend the remainder of the day chatting, catching up on emails and other to-dos, and letting the girls have some quiet playtime. We made the girls an early dinner and put them to bed, then the grown-ups went out for a nearby dinner.

 

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All that recharge was helpful as Friday, we undertook a grand driving adventure around the island. We rented a minivan and took off with a handful of maps to see the area. We drove around harbors, stopped at coffee shops, visited art galleries, checked out remote beaches, and poked around.

Highlights of our tour include:

Coffee and popsicles at Fernwood Road Cafe

The Blue Horse art gallery


P catching a snake at the north point of the island

Touring the Lavender & Black farm and learning about farming, distilling, and making products out of lavender oil. Which inspired T to say she now knows what she wants to do — be a lavender farmer on Salt Spring Island!


Lunch over looking the water at Seaside Restaurant

Seeing the cheese making facilities and tasting goat cheese and goat gelato at Salt Spring Island Cheese

Running into Peter and Eric (dance friends) outside of Salt Spring Vineyards

We were all pooped after the long day of adventuring. I fed the girls and put them to bed while Mark picked up a burrito for us to share for dinner. Charlie and Mary Kay went out and listened to music as they enjoyed dinner. Our quiet dinner included discussing the day, and how this experience will influence how we will structure our days and what we’ll bring/do while in the RV.

Saturday brought the much anticipated Salt Spring Island farmers market. The Marina and Island were packed like we hadn’t seen it before. We spent most of the morning peeking in booths, buying fresh fruit, and taking in the beauty of the summer produce. T had her eye on a necklace made by a local artist and was pleased to meet the artist at the market. She bought herself a beautiful necklace with a small ruby on it.

We lunched. We people watched. We went to the nearby Native American arts and crafts fair and had a nice time talking with one woman who does exquisite bead work.

I had hoped to go to an acroyoga jam Saturday afternoon, but no one showed up, even to unlock the doors.

We fed the kids and put them to bed early, and then Mark, Charlie, Mary Kay and I went out to dinner at the nicest restaurant on the island. We had a beautiful meal, wonderful Canadian wine and great conversation.

I had hoped to dance on Sunday, but the contact jam my friends Peter and Eric were attending was taking place instead and the weekly ecstatic dance on the island was canceled. So we spent a good part of the morning packing, cleaning rooms, helping with IT support, and gathering our stuff scattered across the boat.

In the afternoon, Mark and I took the girls on a tender ride out of the harbor and circumnavigated an island just outside the harbor. We didn’t see any whales, but we did see lots of bald eagles, as well as numerous seals sunning themselves on the rocks.

That evening, we fed the girls, and put them to bed, and then the grow-ups made our final meal on the boat — shrimp and orzo pasta with feta. We enjoyed a few bottles of wine and Mark and Charlie’s homemade dessert creation which included melted chocolate and Nutella, bananas, and other goodies from the pantry.

We were up an early Monday morning to catch our seaplane flight to Vancouver. The short 30 minute flight gave us great views of the islands as well as downtown Vancouver.

We booked a hotel when we landed and dropped our bags to walk to a nearby restaurant for a Belgian Breakfast. The girls ordered a short rib fricasse off the menu and loved it. I think we’ve hit a turning point, where they don’t need the simplicity and blandness of the kids menu anymore. We all enjoyed waffles dipped in melted chocolate as a “breakfast dessert”.

From the restaurant we made a short stop at a playground then walked down to the river and caught a water shuttle over to Granville Island. We spent a few hours on the island, poking around in the kids shops, gift shops, and the market. The Disney cruise ship in the harbor meant it was so crowded it wasn’t enjoyable being there. The highlight was seeing the raptor with its handler — just its presence deterred the otherwise aggressive seagulls (despite some tourists still trying to throw them fries).

Using Car2Go, we rented a car and drove ourselves back to the hotel, stopping by the art museum to see the beautiful fountains.

After a quick rest (and Mark catching up on some emails), we rallied and walked over to a nearby bike rental store. We rented bikes and rode from downtown, along the waterfront, to Stanley Park. We got off the bikes to read and learn about the totem poles. We rode the rest of the loop in the warm sunshine, that finally peeked out after a cloudy and spritzy morning. We watched with some join to see the Disney cruise ship go under the bridge and exit the harbor.


By the time we were most of the way around, the girls were getting hungry. We’d received a recommendation from the hotel concierge for a good Chinese restaurant and we rode our bikes directly there.

The girls enjoyed soup dumplings for the first time, and loved the green beans and homemade fried noodles as well. We relished the ability to order the same food as our children!

Our ride back to the store allowed the girls to learn about shifting gears when biking up hills.

We all wanted a bit of dessert, but our attempts to find the right thing were not being successful. Another chance encounter with our concierge changed that as he directed us to a wonderful gelato place near the waterfront. We ate our treats while watching the white puffy clouds float over the mountains of North Vancouver and talked with some German tourist who were also about to leave Vancouver to head home.

We returned to the hotel, all excited to sleep after our full day.

Our breakfast research on yelp led us to a place that was so popular, there was over an hour wait for breakfast. We didn’t want to wait and found another place nearby that was even better for us, and again we all collectively enjoyed items from the adult menu — breakfast burger and a Reuben sandwich. Can you tell I’m excited about this new change?

We rushed to get ourselves to the bus station, only to find our bus left at 11:30, not 11, and then waited some more as the driver was running about 30 minutes behind.

We’re on the bus now, heading towards Seattle. It was a fabulous trip. We loved all the sights, the adventures, the great company, the beautiful wildlife, and the new experiences. It was a great opportunity to practice packing lightly, to see what we do and don’t want to include in our RV life going forward, and to check-in with ourselves about how we make nomad life sustainable for us.

Blogging with this level of detail is definitely something I’m not going to maintain. Expect future posts to be a bit shorter!

The start of nomadic life

The end of school life and the launch of nomad life happened rather quickly without much time to really feel the transition. Thursday was graduation. Friday, a graduation party. And by Sunday we had a month worth of supplies packed up and we were on the road to Seattle. 

The graduation ceremony was a heart-felt, tear-jerking celebration of 12 children who have been taught to think outside of the box, to see a different perspective, and to know deeply that they are valued, wanted, and their voice matters in the world.

 

(Our 5th and 4th grade graduates!)

T’s introduction from her teacher started with: “To our storyteller, mathematician and poet…” I watched her face as she listened to her teacher’s tribute to her. What a gift to be so seen and known by someone you look up to. I’m so grateful that he shared those words to take with her as she launches into her into self-directed learning. 

 

(Accepting her diploma and giving a hug to her teachers Chris and Katharine)

The graduation party featured a potluck and lots of kids running around in the yard. Saying goodbye to friends still feels awkward. Hopefully we’ll see some of them again this summer before we leave Portland for good, but others I’m sure we won’t. It feels more appropriate to say “so long for now” than “goodbye.”

 

AD32D514-E46A-4D47-BF1A-DB6957C04DFC.jpeg(The graduation party!)

And just like that, we launched into the next phase of life. The rain and cold disappeared welcoming in true summer weather. We wanted to minimize what we brought to spend almost three weeks on Mark’s Uncle’s boat as practice for our nomadic life ahead. Trying to be consistent with our effort to produce less waste, we packed rags, cloth napkins, mason jars, and reusable produce bags.

We met up with Charlie and his girlfriend, Mary Kay, in Bainbridge and made arrangements for the trip: menu planning, provisioning, moving kayaks and paddle boards. We got underway just before noon on Monday and had a leisurely, smooth cruise to Port Townsend, WA with Mt. Rainer peering over our shoulder the whole ride.

 

(The first dinner in the flybridge in Port Townsend)
We made dinner on the boat in port, got the kids to bed, and then went for a walk in the dimming twilight. Charlie and Mary Kay went for a drink. Mark and I ducked in for a hot tub and sauna at Soak. Before it got dark, we stopped and watched a handful of otters playing on the nearby docks.
After a quick breakfast, we got underway wanting to be ahead of any stronger winds that might pick up in the afternoon and make the passage more difficult. We had smooth sailing and made it to the Seattle Yacht Club outstation at Henry Island in time for a late lunch. The girls played math and spelling games to pass the time, while the adults kept an eye out for pods of Orcas or other things floating in our path.
(Working on spreadsheets, math and spelling games)
Henry Island is a favorite place for us all — it’s nice and quiet, it has a playground, pickle ball court, and great walking trails. Eagles greeted us, the girls did some kayaking around the docks, we practiced our pickle ball skills, and Mark and I went for a glorious sunset hike after getting the kids to bed.
(We borrowed some kayaks from the outstation and the girls explored around the docks.)

 

Henry Island is an easy place to stay, not just because of Charlie’s Seattle Yacht Club membership, but because it’s less than a mile from Roche Harbor, making it a quick trip helping us secure a prime spot in the marina for the Ocean Alexander Rendezvous. We arrived Wednesday at noon and were assigned to one of our preferred slips on the shore side of the A docks.   

(A dock full of Ocean Alexander boats)
After settling in, we piled into the tender and headed for Wescott Bay Oysters, just two coves over. The gorgeous outdoor dining area is surpassed only by the delicious barbecued oysters. 30 oysters, a bowl of mussels and clams, 2 bottles of sparking rose, 2 freshly baked loaves of bread, and 1 chocolate chip cookie later, we left happy and satisfied, and ready for a long afternoon nap.
(Enjoying the food, the view, and the company)
The formal Ocean Alexander Rendezvous festivities started Thursday morning when Mary Kay and Charlie went golfing. We enjoyed a quiet and productive morning on the boat and spent some time after lunch at the Roche Harbor pool. The evening was comprised of a happy hour celebration, complete with crab legs and shrimp cocktail, and getting reconnected with friends from last year and meeting new ones.
By Friday morning, the festivities were in full swing, starting with a champagne breakfast, a mid-day cooking class (featuring prime rib and cap steak — P’s new favorite food), a BBQ dinner under the big tents, followed by a disco dance party on the top deck of an 88 foot yacht. Mary Kay and I got in one game of pickle ball Friday morning, to get some movement in before all the sitting and eating the day ahead would bring. And somewhere in the day, the girls and I found time to hang four sets of disco ball LED lights on the aft deck to participate in the boat decorating contest.
(Waiting for the cooking class to start)
(Epic disco dance party on the upper deck of an 88 foot yacht)
Saturday morning, Charlie, Mark, Mary Kay and I took a hike to the mausoleum before engaging in a doubles pickle ball match. We made it back to the boat in time to clean up before the oyster feast for lunch. The girls had reconnected with another party attendee who was their age (and her friend from school). The four of them enjoyed spending most of the day together. None of them were interested in eating oysters, so we made them some pasta to enjoy before they left to decorate the dingy for the afternoon’s dingy parade.
(The mausoleum in the woods behind Roche Harbor)
The girls spent most of the afternoon decorating and getting ready for the evening’s disco themed party and costume contest. After helping their friends disco-decorate their dingy, they were invited to ride with their friends for the dingy parade. The parade is really a bunch of smaller boats following around a bigger boat that is playing music, passing out margaritas, and giving away prizes for answering trivia questions correctly. 
(The girls riding with their friends in the decorated dingy)
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(A view of the whole parade)
Not long after the dingy parade, we all got dressed and ready for the main event of the evening — the dinner and costume party. While we showed a lot of spirit in dressing up for the theme, we didn’t come close to winning the costume contest, compared with the family that wins every year. The dad’s disco ball contest took top prize.
(In our disco duds)
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(The winning costume of the contest)
When awarding the “best decorated dingy” prize, the organizers somehow mixed up the boats, and awarded the prize to our boat (even though it was the friend’s dingy that was decorated). We joined the four girls who did all the decorating at the VIP table (the prize for winning!) and enjoyed watching them try the four course “surf and turf” dinner,  where they mostly enjoyed the specially ordered “buttered pasta” course that was made just for them.
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(Dining at the VIP table)
(The divas!)
After dinner, we stayed to disco dance the night away, including participating in the disco dance competition. We took first, second, and third place in the competition! The fact that we were just over three teams competing may have helped! The girls danced the night away, and upon returning back to the boat to go to bed, P remarked: “this was the best night of my life!”

(Post dance-party celebration with the party staff… we shut the party down!)

 

What about school?

The second most commonly asked question we get is “what about school?” This question comes in two flavors:

  • What is our general educational philosophy?
  • How exactly are we going to do it?

To answer the first question about philosophy, we see that our approach falls into three core tenants:

  • Intention
  • Play
  • Wisdom

The poet Mary Oliver asks the question we want at the heart of all our educational endeavors (both for the adults and the kids):

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
– Mary Oliver

And by “plan to do” we don’t think Mary Oliver is talking about the plan of “what you want to be when you grow up.” To us she is talking about intention and choice… inviting us to be active participants in our one-time, magical, precious journey on this planet. Even this blog post has become documentation of our intentions for this educational journey.

In the book “Essentialism” author Greg Mckeown reminds us that school didn’t start out being serious, full of hard work, or about competition and pressure. He says:

“The word school is derived from the Greek word schole, meaning “leisure.””
– Greg Mckeown

We have learned a lot about the concept of “playful inquiry” from Opal School (our elementary school) and we see the importance of continuing to learn, explore, and understand the world with a sense of joy, flow, and ease that comes when you play.

The older the kids get, the more pressure there is to make sure we fill their heads with information that they “should” know. And while we want them to know a lot of things, we also wish for them to have a deeper wisdom about what is important in life and how to create a life well lived. This quote from Lao-tzu reminded us that our ongoing efforts of deliberate subtraction are important for more than just our “stuff”… we need to apply this to our educational approach as well:

To attain knowledge, add things every day.
To attain wisdom, subtract things every day.
– Lao-tzu

As we subtract, we hope what remains is lots of room to be present to life, to be aware of and share our emotions, to hone our creativity and imaginations, to practice our adaptability and courage, to respond to injustice or calls for assistance, to process and problem solve, and to see where we can use our privilege to improve life for all beings. These seem like the best educational experiences we can provide to support the next generation, and the best ways we can be in service to the emerging future.

So this leads us to the second flavor of this question: “How are we going to do it?”

How? We’re going to have a lot of fun!

We’re going to visit museums, observatories, nature centers, and national parks. We’re going to read great books as a family. We’re going to ask people we meet about what they find most interesting about a place, or their job, or something they’re learning, or something they care about. We’re going to play cards, and track our expenses, and play math games online. We’re going to visit the places we read about. We’re going to volunteer. We’re going to cook, clean, do laundry, fill up our water tanks, empty our waste, check the tires, set up and take down, navigate, research our next stop, and find cool things to do. We’re going to practice typing, using spreadsheets, create presentations, and document our progress. We’re going to see shows and plays, art fairs, and festivals. We’re going to send postcards, and compose blog posts and magazine articles, and write long fantasy fiction stories. We’re going to hike, swim, paddle, bike, explore caves, and walk along the beach. We are going to keep our hearts open for what calls to us to serve.

And all the while, we’ll be turning life learning into “education-ese,” tracking it in Evernote, and categorizing it according to Washington State’s homeschooling subjects: reading, writing, spelling, language, math, science, social studies, history, health, occupational education, and art and music appreciation. To meet the homeschooling laws, we have to keep these records and get the kids either tested or evaluated each year (and keep those results).

Will they know how to study and take tests? Will they know how to buckle down and do three hours of homework every night? Will they be prepared for competition, performance expectations, testing rigor, ringing bells, peer pressure, or other aspects of traditional schooling life?

No, probably not. But hopefully they will have a deep wisdom that comes from a solid relationship with their own internal drive, their passions, their motivations, their interests, their yes and their no, their autonomy, their creativity, and their pleasure and they can apply these things to navigate their path in the future. And maybe they’ll use those skills to find a way to create a life that doesn’t have so much stress, and pressure, and unpleasantness for themselves and for others…

Going For It

The idea of being nomadic, pulling our kids out of school, traveling around the globe, not working 9-5 jobs… was something we’d dreamed into for years. But there was always something in the way… a career goal, or an amazing school, or being with family, or the kids were too young, or the financial resources weren’t there, or, or….

We told ourselves that middle school would be the time to go — the kids would be independent, but would still want to be with us. They would be able to remember the trip, and we could spare them the bully- and busywork laden experience of (many) middle schools. [Or were we fooling ourselves with the idea that spending extended periods of time with two pre-pubescent teens was a good idea!?]

And all of a sudden, the middle school years were upon us. And a huge goal Mark had been working towards in his career was achieved (and exceeded!). And we said goodbye to our furry first child at the ripe age of 13 (RIP Kihei!). And all the small decisions we’d made over the years, to downsize, simplify, and tread lightly on the earth, meant we were in a position to make a radical change.

Over the winter, as we sat writing notes in our holiday card to our many friends scattered across the country, we got a clear sense that we wanted to travel and re-establish these connections. To see long lost friends, and soon to be friends, and business friends, and to meet new friends along the way. To deepen our relationships with the sunset, and the moon cycle, and the stars in the sky. To create new relationships with the natural beauty of this country, particularly the national parks, and the lakes, and the wildlife. To deepen our relationship as a family unit.

And so it was decided, we would start domestically — traverse this beautiful country (and our neighbor to the north) and we would embrace the essentialism required by “van life” by doing so in a small RV. Extensive research, touring a friend’s rig, and visiting the RV show led us to Leisure Travel Vans.

Because we are pragmatic virgos who are overly responsible and plan everything out in advance, we decided to rent a Leisure Travel Van before going ahead and buying one. Our inaugural trip happened over spring break in March, where we spent 5 days in the van, visiting Yosemite, the Giant Sequoias, gold rush towns, caverns, and more. On the last evening in the van, we told the kids that we had to turn it in the next day, and we took their response as a good sign: “What?! Already?!”

We returned from the trip excited to move forward and to purchase our very own Serenity model Leisure Travel Van. We placed an order for a new unit with all the upgraded bells and whistles on the Sprinter chassis (yeah for apple car play and adaptive cruise control).

(Here’s the outside view — just under 25 feet long)

(The interior layout — the back bed also makes into an L shaped couch, and the mid-seating turns into a second full size bed.)

Our van should be built and delivered before the end of the summer, which is perfect timing. We love spending the summer in the Northwest, not to mention we have a lot of unwinding work to do.

The question we’re most often asked once people hear of our news, is “where are you going to go?” And interestingly, we have made no decisions yet. There are lots of places we want to go, and lots of people we want to see, but we’re waiting to see where the wind takes us. Maybe we’ll start north in BC and Vancouver Island? Or we’ll zoom out to the east coast and enjoy time there before winter sets in? Or maybe we’ll head south and spend the winter in Florida or Arizona or New Mexico? I actually love that we don’t know, and that it’s not all mapped out. That feels so un-virgo and like the start of a new chapter of life for us.

The fourth most often asked question is “will you keep a blog?” Hopefully this post answers that question. We’ll keep a blog mostly for ourself and if anyone else enjoys reading it too, that’ll be great. And in future posts, I’ll address the second and third most asked questions!

For now, I’m enjoying walks in the arboretum several times a week with Mark as we relish in the gorgeous spring weather, and we talk through the myriad of decisions, nuances, and details that are going into this transition.

Midwest Trip – Day 7

T: We slept in until 8 am.

P: I went back to sleep. Yeah!

P: We went to get breakfast at the hotel. I got disgusting toast and cereal.

T: I got kind of disgusting toast, and disgusting cheerios. 

T: Then we went on an air conditioned bus tour. Me, and Parker and Zach played video games on a pioneer tour, weird. 


T: We saw Ma, Pa, Mary, Carrie, and Grace’s graves. Laura was buried somewhere else with Almanzo and Rose.


P: We saw Silver Lake.

T: We saw the place Almanzo built Laura her first house that burned down.

P: At lunch, I had pizza sticks, and rotisserie chicken, and one piece of cucumber. 

T: It was our friend, Joy’s birthday. And also Barb gave us little game things to do. Then we headed off to a lake.

P: A police car took us to the side of the road and said that we were going too fast. Going 42 in a 35 spot. And she hit [drove] on the shoulder of the road. 

T: The police wasn’t an actual police. Seriously, why did he have to pull us over? He was a college campus police. Why do they have police for college campus?


P: We went to a lake [Lake Shetek, in a State Park]. Zach met us there. We got stuffed fishies that were water toys. We played and played. The lake was very fun.

T: The lake was actually pretty warm. And we played a lot of games with our fish balls. 


P: We went to Walmart for scissors, wax, wine and toothpaste. We needed wax because my brace broke [and a wire was sticking into her gum].

P: And then we ate dinner. I had potstickers. Taylor had pad si ew. 

T: Parker thought her potstickers were the best potstickers in the world.

P: And they were. And soon we’re going to a pageant. Good night for the night. 💤 

[Mom: After our Thai food dinner, we drove back to Walnut Grove to attend the pageant. Barb has been taking tours to the show for 16 years, so she was able to reserve front row seats for us. The girls sat with Zach and he brought little gifts for them.


The show was better than the one the night before, but heavier on religion and featured stories that weren’t included in the book “On the Banks of Plum Creek.”

But there were some cool parts including live horses pulling buggies, underground pipes to simulate a prairie fire, and a very over-the-top portrayal of Nellie Olesen that kept Taylor grinning from ear to ear. 


Before the second act started, we spotted fireflies in the trees off to the side of the stage. While we weren’t close enough to catch them, I’m glad we all got a brief  “firefly experience.” 

The girls LOVED it. Taylor said she wanted to be in that kind of pageant when she’s older. 

The show started at 9 pm, and ended just after 11. We had to stay to let the girls meet and take photos with the actors. 


We took to sleeping girls into the hotel well after midnight.]